This is a defense mechanism they use to avoid the hard work of looking introspectively and discovering that just maybe the reason why they create drama is because they feel they have no purpose or drive; to admit that and give up drama means they have no purpose or importance in this world ).There is nothing worse than a woman who disrespects her man publicly and continually belittles and emasculates him in front of others.In JRR Tolkien’s epic trilogy, we’re introduced to a character named Smeagol.Smeagol used to be a hobbit — a somewhat dwarf-like humanoid race that has large, hairy feet — but discovers a ring of power that quickly poisons his mind and has him become obsessed, leading to the infamous catch phrase, “Much like Smeagol, some women become obsessed and possessed with their boyfriend. Plus I’m broke and there’s no way I could afford this place if you weren’t paying. Whenever I offer to chip in and the guy accepts, I get pissed. I mean, I just feel worried that you’ll think I’m taking advantage of you or using you because you have that high-powered job and are like, loaded —Him: The upside of workaholism . So I reject them before they have a chance to see the real me and reject me. Me: Oh yeah, just, if I sleep with you tonight, you’ll call me afterwards, right? Because if you don’t I’ll feel like I’m going to die from the God-sized hole inside me. Because I like to abandon myself and focus all my energy into taking care of and healing deeply wounded men.
attack another person’s character flaws instead of looking inward, thus never having to deal with why they thrive on drama to begin with.Our lives didn’t revolve around each other, and we were much healthier for it.Happy marriages are also reported to function best when both partners can enjoy time apart without having to entertain the other.Inevitably, what will happen if your life revolves around another person is that feelings of resentment will build. As her boyfriend, I might as well have been feeding gasoline to the fire drama because I was a source of the crisis as well.Shame will creep into the relationship because both people feel their needs aren’t being met, and eventually a co-dependent relationship will blossom in which each person’s happiness is centered solely on whether the other person appears happy. Doom might just be the option you need to dissolve this relationship. Over time I recognized something about people who’s lives seem full of drama. Because you feel like my so we have to be resonating on multiple layers of woundedness. Him: I was never allowed to express what I needed and always had to put what she wanted first. Me: So you can avoid your feelings by keeping things on the surface? Him: That sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.