When you’ve worked up the courage to start a conversation with a potential mom friend, it’s always a good start to ask about her and her kid(s).
You already have one thing in common you can focus on: you’re both parents!
Could I get your number so we can set up a play date for them? And just to prove the very real possibility that you be rejected when trying to make new mommy friends, enjoy a personal story: Having moved to a new neighborhood recently, I’ve been eager to meet my neighbors and find myself and my daughter some friends.
I thought I stumbled into the perfect situation when a fellow mom made a blanket statement on our neighborhood Facebook page that she and her toddler would love to have a play date with someone soon! We messaged a few times promising to get together “sometime;” I tried to play it cool. She gave me another shot and I’d now consider us mommy friends.
Then, she made what I felt like was the “first move.” She hilariously admitted to having face-stalked my profile a little and found a few things we had in common. Well…her response was less than eager, basically saying she would check her calendar and let me know a time the following week that might work. After telling my husband of this, he still teases me to this day about how I scared her off. If I didn’t feel any kind of connection with a guy I went on a date with, I wouldn’t accept or offer another one.Does any part of the above situation sound a little familiar to you?That’s because trying to find play dates for your kids or mommy friends for you is a lot like the dating world again.If your man thinks the ideal date is all-night clubbing with bottle service, he’s not going to be up for diaper changing at 5 a.m. (The baby is with grandma and you’re getting a break from the single mommy routine!) But if he’s constantly refusing to come to your neck of the woods, that’s a sign something’s not quite right. ADD When you go out on a date, you don’t want to deal with someone who’s constantly making lame jokes with the waitress, or who can’t take his eyes off the basketball game on TV or the pretty woman at the bar.But now that we have kids, and he’s off to work every day, it’s up to me to find friends for our 2 year old and mommy friends for me.