So wouldn’t it sound like the type of BFFs that live far away would actually be on the low-end of the bestie scale? They’re not just a hop, skip and a jump away when you want to meet for Friday happy hour.
Communication with these types of BFFs takes actual work!
Anyone who is able to call someone their BFF is a lucky duck, in my opinion. They force you to stay in touch, take trips to see one another and appreciate your friendship for more than just someone you see every weekend.
They’re there for you when you’re the happiest of happy and the saddest of sad, and even the not-so-pretty times in between. They’re the ultimate type of best friend and are worthy of BFF praise, and here’s why: You actually have to communicate to stay in touch Your friends half way across the country don’t get the privilege of seeing you during an impromptu mid-week trip to the gym or grocery store or workday.
For me, this stage usually lasts between a couple minutes to all day (depending on whether it is going to be a couple days or a couple months until I see my significant other). It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are replacing them with another person; it is also common to replace a loved one with a hobby, job, friends, clubs, or horrible reality television (like Toddlers in Tiaras, Here Comes Honey Boo Boo, or Judge Judy).
You are just depressed because you know how much you are going to miss them. Not deeply depressed, just a little bit – just enough that people who know me can tell if he’s visiting or not. I have friends in long distance relationships that are depressed for nearly a week every time their significant other visits, then leaves. Everything finally settles on the final step: Acceptance. Replacement means what it sounds like; you replace your significant other with something so that you don’t miss them so much.
Most people would rather try to make the distance work; even if they know they are going to fail, they at least want to try. This technically starts before the long distance relationship even begins. Last year, during winter break, while I was away from my then-boyfriend, now fiancé Ryosuke, I made close to 100 cloth flowers with a mold I got from a friend.
But you also can’t stop loving someone just because they live too far away. It always hits me the hardest when my fiancé’s bus pulls away. The basic gist of replacement is that you’ve gotten tired of that hole in your heart, so you try to use all that frustration, depression, and loneliness and turn it into something productive.
They help you see the world outside your bubble It can be hard to remember that life truly does exist outside of your little world, especially when you’re caught up in a quarter-life crisis stage.
When you get together, it’s the highlight of forever Do you ever notice this?
When you actually get the opportunity to spend in-person time with a long-distance BFF, it’s like the best thing to ever happen in your entire life.
So when your best of the best friends lives far away, it takes some dedication to stay in touch and have them know you appreciate their friendship for more than just an occasional text when you remember a funny story or see a funny picture pop up on your Facebook of Timehop. Finding good friends is hard, in any stage of life, so keeping them and remaining a good one to them is something to be proud of.
So remind your BFFs how much they mean to you, near or far, because life is just so much better with girlfriends in it.