For the most part, everyone is still sticking to their "own kind." Is this intentional segregation or just cultural tradition? But one thing remains certain: Every interracial couple entering into a serious relationship knows what struggles lie ahead.Maybe that 93 percent would just rather avoid them. I'm white, and I lead a very happy life with my black husband.You might get a little giggle at first, but in the long haul? Interracial Dating Dilemma: “People are staring.” Yes, people will stare. They’ll also stare when you wear that killer dress you just got, finish your first marathon, or win a Nobel Prize.Be tolerant and open to meeting people who you have things in common with. Have you ever dated someone outside your ethnic group?Bob Jones University in South Carolina only dropped its ban on interracial dating in 2000; a year later 40 percent of voters objected when Alabama became the last state to remove a ban on interracial marriages from its constitution. One of the hardest struggles for interracial couples is the fact that the topic itself is still one of the most debated "taboos" in our country -- a country that, at its heart, is still very nervous about the idea of races, cultures, and classes mixing.(Consider ongoing immigration debates, an imbalanced criminal justice system, and the fact that we can't stop obsessing about the degree of blackness of our mixed-race presidential candidate.)It also doesn't help that happy, healthy interracial couples are still a novelty in Hollywood.Put your big g URL panties on and say, “Guess who’s coming to dinner!
And we've got it easy compared to most: Had we been born at different times and in different states, we'd never have had a chance.The miscegenation of our society may seem to be growing at a steady rate based on how often we've been talking about race lately. Interracial relationships represent approximately seven percent of couples in the country, which is incredible progress considering they represented just .07 percent in 1960.But for our ever-diversifying nation, these are alarmingly low figures.Movies and TV -- especially standard, primetime adult fare -- are largely whitewashed, and when minorities are represented in relationships, they have to stick to their own kind (The George Lopez Show and Tyler Perry movies, for example).Even when there's the chance for a legitimate interracial relationship, scripts are shifted to keep things "safe." The biggest no-no seems to be black/white pairings.Are your parents strict about you dating certain races?