But as the weeks have passed, although I continue to feel strong and lingering feelings for my ex, my feelings for the new (beta, completely out of my usual range of attraction) guy have started growing.
He’s keen to progress things but I’ve kept him at arms-length (with honesty and openness about why).
A fling or a rebound relationship is the hair of the dog of the dating world. And guess what, it’s a freakin’ happy place out there!
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Who was that hottie who almost made you orgasm while texting late at night?
Having a fling can bring back all the fuzzy buzz of infatuation and flirty love, and that’ll definitely make you forget your old love.
No matter how I tried to fix myself, I could never seem to get anything right. Now that I broke that off and haven’t spoken to him for four months, I got back into online dating.
Is it POSSIBLE that you determine after a week, a month, or a year, that you were on the rebound and misjudged things? Is it POSSIBLE that he IS the one and you’d never know it as “just friends”? But it would be hard for him to make you happy unless you let him. But to get chivalry, my Mom gave up attraction, humor, respect, and financial stability. You can be with a nice guy who also has opinions, makes decisions, and makes you feel feminine. My serious partner of 5 years broke up with me two years ago for another woman, which left me in incredible aguish.
Since the breakup we had zero contact and in this time I have become friends with another guy.
Only friends, only platonic, and I’ve been really upfront about my emotional position.
The new guy is so very different to anyone I’ve ever dated before, and I know this is a good thing, on so many levels.
But my question is this – firstly, how can I really uncover whether this is a rebound thing, or if the feelings might be genuine, and secondly, because I am so aware that I really needed to ‘break the mold’, how do I evaluate if this is not just the motivation for something new.