They imagine that babysitting your grandkids is a privilege -- at their convenience -- and too often don't think about how lovely it would be to simply have family time together. They think that their parents will be there forever, that there will always be time to get together, to do this or do that together someday.
They figure that as long as things are humming along in their lives, why call you with any details? When you're 20 or 25 or 30, unless you've had the misfortune to lose a parent at a very young age, it's hard to imagine not having your parents around for years and years to come.
I'm not asking for that much contact -- just an occasional phone call... I'm tired of the excuses I read for adult children. When are adult children going to wake up and visit their mothers? They never visit, rarely call and I learn information about my grandchildren on Facebook. They fought horribly during her daughter's vacation periods at home and her daughter maintained radio silence when she was at school.
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Or you may try to recapture the closeness you once shared by making comments and observations about your adult child's physical being or lifestyle or choices the way you used to when they were younger, only now these observations or unsolicited opinions sound like criticisms to him or her -- when that isn't what you meant at all.
You just wanted to participate in, to be part of, his or her life.