) it would be interesting for the students as well as my teacher with dissimilar background to know that how Iranians start dating, falling in love, and getting married. The way people start dating in Iran is highly dependent on the family they were born.Generally, we have two extreme categories for Iranian families.Also, another custom that families talk about in ‘khastegari’ called as ‘Mehrieh’. After this meeting, if the families especially the boy and girl want to know each other more, a period starts we called ‘Namzadi’.
Anyway, Once the children in these families want/forced to get married either in a traditional or modern way, they will still have ‘Khastegari’ and ‘Namzadi’ and these two customs are done usually in a way similar to the traditional families rather than modern families. After that the couple falls in love and decides to get married, they should celebrate their marriage ceremony. In this ceremony the guests should give their gifts to the couple which usually are really worth a fortune.
During this ceremony, the guests and the couple dance together and have a lot of fun and usually the ceremony end up with a dinner. In this ceremony, the couple invites almost all of their families for the ceremony and guests give their valuable gifts to the couple.
The rest of the ceremony is pretty similar to the ‘Patakhti’ with a big difference that the ceremony is held in a big place.
In this period the couple either falls in love with each other and decides to get married or understands they cannot get along with each other and break up.
The second category are those families we called ‘open-minded’ or ‘modern’ families.