That means there’s a strategic advantage for women to snag an older gent—he’s had more time to accumulate resources and stability than his younger counterparts, which could make him a more viable partner and father.
Now, I’m not saying these are conscious reasons why dating a man quite a bit older—there have been several moments when I’ve thought that going out with someone closer to my age would be much simpler.
This ill-fated flirtation promises lots of one-on-one time bonding over a shared love of dogs, and will end when you eventually text her “sorry, not feelin’ it anymore. If you’re going to experiment with dating women, why not ruin a friendship while you’re at it!
Remember—if you think men are pigs who are wasting your time, you can pay it forward by wasting the time of a woman who’s just looking for real love while you conduct a useless and ultimately fruitless sexual experiment.
I even tried it when my boyfriend and I took a short break, and I found it was painstakingly difficult and more complicated than my experience dating an older guy. The texting games (How long should I wait to text him back? It’s exhausting), the fear of commitment that plagues most twentysomethings, and the simple fact that most guys my age aren’t as emotionally mature as I am.
It can be tough when you and your older partner can’t share childhood commonalities (dude’s never read a book!?
In general, there’s a stigma that a younger woman dates an older man because he’s more powerful and can essentially take care of her.
Haley, the barista at Starbucks Haley is pretty, and good at making both coffee and conversation. This short-lived relationship will be full of walks in the park, cuddles by the fire, and ultimately, heartbreak (for her, not you). Phaedra, your Twitter friend Since you’ve never actually met in person, this one is a no-brainer.
Phaedra is super funny and smart, and most importantly, she doesn’t live in your state.
Plus, she’s only a few hundred feet away at all times, which is an even bigger plus. Melinda, your one lesbian friend Will she go for this?
This limited-time liaison will be filled with sweet nothings and deliciously ambiguous flirtation, and will end abruptly when you are no longer hungry and also not a lesbian. Now you know you’re not attracted to women Greta, your dog walker Greta is always on time to walk Sweet Potato, and that’s your number one “green flag” in a partner. Ask Greta if she’d like to walk the dog together, and take it from there. Probably not, but there’s no law on the books that says you can’t ask.