I'm a professional Matchmaker based in Los Angeles, what I affectionately refer to as “the Baghdad of dating.”The dating scene is rough in LA (and in every other city, and in every other town,...and for our entire generation), and I have match-made and coached hundreds of women: from A-list celebrities, to successful girl bosses, to cover models, who all don't understand why they can't get into an exclusive relationship with a nice guy. If you have yet to hire a professional Matchmaker like myself, which I highly encourage if you are in the financial place to do it, you are probably meeting men on dating apps or online (or in real life if you read this genius article by yours truly). If a guy is relying heavily on the apps as his primary source for meeting women, he is coming into the dating scene with a completely different mentality than men of the past who dated solely based on who they met in their everyday lives.I know that it's super depressing to think about, but when going into war, you need to understand the terrain that you are entering.And according to "How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days," isn't all supposed to be fair in love and war?The dating apps condition guys to feel like dating is like playing the slot machines at the Venetian.They can conceptualize that they just won the jackpot by meeting a smart, fun and pretty woman who they connect with, but the slot machine (aka the dating app) encourages them to “keep playing.”They suffer from what one of my business partners and matchmaking mogul, Patti Stanger, "The Million Dollar Matchmaker," pinpoints…
It was really good for them, but they are not bonded to you based on the fact alone that you had sex.
Men whose primary way of meeting women in real life have less options, so when they do meet an incredible women like yourself, they get that it is difficult to find such a catch.
Men who primarily meet women through apps experience the same feelings of frustration and have the understanding that meeting an incredible woman is challenging, but they have a Vegas gambling mentality when it comes to dating.
A part of me wants to say sorry to all of the men who may think that I am portraying their entire species as horn dogs, but another, much bigger part of me thinks #sorrynotsorry. This is the single most misinterpreted fact about men that women cannot seem to wrap their heads around, because sex for women is totally opposite.
Most women would never even dream of sleeping with a majority of the different men in their lives and are way more discerning when it comes down to who they will actually sleep with.