Some have reasoned that only sexual intercourse is actually sex and so anything else is because it isn’t really sex and so it isn’t really wrong.These teens conclude that as long as both of you want to do it, what’s the problem?When to awaken love The Song of Solomon says, “I charge you, O daughters of Jerusalem…do not stir up nor awaken love until it pleases” (2:7; 3:5; 8:4).Don’t allow yourself to be drawn into a situation where you get your body and your passions “stirred up” before it is proper!One young person told me, “We were always told not to have sex before we are married…but no one told us how to do that.No one told us what the boundaries were.” Do you know what the boundaries are?Long passionate kisses, fondling, petting and so forth are all part of the act of sex.They are designed to prepare a husband and wife physically, mentally and emotionally to consummate the act with intercourse.
If sex is shared with another person, that bond is shattered! He has written throughout the Bible that we are to avoid any use of sex except within the confines of marriage. And thanks to an ex-president of the United States, even oral sex doesn’t count according to this view. There is a reason all these other things are called sexual activity!
The United States, where the largest proportion of sexually-explicit movies are produced, has the highest rate of teen pregnancies in the industrialized world—nearly a million a year.
Additionally, three million teens are infected with some form of . The common belief among many youth today is that sex is something to be experimented with freely.
Don’t get caught in the “kissing trap.” Despite what others may tell you, now is not the time for passionate kisses.
If you are truly in love and are marrying for the right reasons, neither you nor your mate will be overly worried about being a good kisser.