When you rush back in the pool with floaties you’ll never be able to really “swim”—and when the waters get too rough, you risk drowning again. Even if YOU are "fine" with it, you never really know what is in the heart of the other. Many are guarded and taking their time, and rightly so, but many can prefer the safe and endless “dating” to a move toward marriage.
This type of relating has some immediate benefits that soothe the ego, but it can also be a mutual using of each other until someone better comes along.
After a few tears she doesn’t want to be left out and wants to go back into the pool—and that’s when you step in.
Whether you’ve wrongly worshiped relationships, or have rejected them altogether, the alone-time after a divorce can be a HUGE blessing. It should help us unclasp the firm grip we had on all that we lost, and move us gently and slowly out into the “deep” of knowing God, ourselves, and his true purpose for our lives. You may have learned it “by heart” as a child: first to come to KNOW God, and then to LOVE him.
Now you can understand why someone may want to rush back, as it were, into the perceived safety of a new relationship.
They loved being married, being a family, or having sexual intimacy.
It is far too terrifying to be alone in that water when she does not know how to handle it.
Now fast forward a year or so and Sara has learned to hold her breath and kick her feet; she’s put on her floaties and is splashing merrily in the deep end.