“Even with the age gap, I’ve never quite met anyone like him,” she says.A month or so ago, I stopped seeing a much younger guy.“It was love at first sight,” Angal says of meeting Siegner, a buxom blonde who was a successful account executive at a graphic design company at the time.And unlike his previous flings, Siegner wanted a serious relationship and was straightforward about her desires.“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.
“There were a lot of the ‘boy toy’ remarks, and I will say it mostly came from men my age — there’s a threatening aspect to a woman dating a younger man,” she says.
“You’re less likely to date a younger guy who’s been divorced, has children or has sexual performance issues.” In 2011, she met Juan Cabrera, now 34, at one of her mixers and soon fell in love. “Millennial men are career-focused and want to travel with successful women and conquer the world together,” says Soletti, who notes she’s seen an uptick in established women signing up specifically to meet younger bucks at her speed-dating events.
Such May-December couplings are no longer seen as relationship outliers — or indicative of deep-seated mommy issues.
Prior to meeting Siegner in 2012, Angal was a tour manager for a music company and had a lifestyle he describes as “sex, drugs and rock ’n’ roll.” He mostly dated party girls in their 20s.
But when he was set up with Siegner by a mutual friend, matchmaker Sameera Sullivan, he says his life turned around.